Monday, June 8, 2009

Making Amends.

We all have things in our life that we’d like to change. There are things we have done, that we wish we didn’t do. There are people we have hurt that we wish we hadn’t hurt. There are situations we have handled in ways that we wish we handn’t handled them. I am sure that every one of us has at least one thing that we’d like to go back and do differently. It used to be that you had to live with this forever. There was no going back and setting things right. Nowadays, you can find that person you wronged so many years ago on Facebook. You can send them a message and tell them how sorry you are that you did what you did, said what you said or acted how you acted. The marvels of modern technology.

Its really quite maddening. Let’s say you are the person who was wronged. It was years ago and really, you are over it. You have let it go and moved on with your life. Then, one day, out of the blue, you open up your Facebook and BAM – there is an email from, let’s just say, your ex-wife. And she goes on and on about how sorry she is that she handled things the way she did, blah blah blah.

This happened to Trevor a few months back. He’s been divorced for over 10 years and the last time he had any contact with his ex was about 7 years ago when they had to go to court. I always say that Trevor has no emotions. I believe she got his emotions in the settlement – because from what I can tell – he had them before that. All the same, I don’t care what happened with them – we have our lives now and they are good. All things in the past lead to the here and now. Without that experience, Trevor and I might not be together.

Then, just yesterday, one of Trevor’s oldest friends, whom we haven’t had contact with for about 5 years because he is a complete asshole, contacted Trevor just to say “sorry for how things went down”.

Listen up people – if you are sorry about something….LIVE WITH IT. Don’t ruin someone else’s day by getting it off your chest and making yourself feel better. This only shows what a small person you really are. If you are sorry, don’t behave that way towards anyone else. If you feel badly, good. This is what Trevor has to say about all this: “I don’t need to be reminded that in the past I was a very poor judge of character”. Well said.

Trevor ignored both of those emails and wonders who else is out there that may send another one of these emails. Because we just don’t tolerate drama. From anyone – especially those whom we have banished from our lives. We don’t talk to you for a reason. Accept it. We aren’t all that great and so who cares if we don’t like you.

So if you are one of the people whom are no longer in our lives and you are lurking here, reading about our lives, that’s fine. Please just don’t make contact with us. We don’t care how you feel.

1 comment:

I Am Mark Richards said...

I'm sorry for whatever it is I should be sorry for! I just wanted you to know how I felt and that I regret wronging you both in whichever way it was that I wronged so long ago! That was fun to read and I just feel so much better now!
Mark (LOL)